systemic constellation work
Family Constellation is an effective and powerful method to recognize family entanglements in the family of origin as well as in the present family. Most often unexpected, solution-oriented interventions bring relaxation and understanding in deep human problem situations and allow love to flow again between the members of the family system.
A German therapist, Bert Hellinger, has developed Systemic Family Therapy. In his therapeutic approach we consider the individual not as a separate unit, but as part of a greater whole, a family system, an energy field. His individual behaviour, his feelings and attitudes have to be understood in the context of this larger group, that he belongs too.
Like in any other system there are laws operating in a family system, which guide the individual’s behaviour and to a large extent are unspoken and the individuals are even unaware of them. Often suffering among family members arises if one or more members of the family system unconsciously violate these archaic laws or ‘orders’ (‘order’ has to be understood not in a moralistic sense) This happens mostly out of love, but a blind love which needs to be looked at and transformed into a conscious love. Hellinger calls them the ‘Orders of Love’.
The method of bringing the hidden family dynamics to light is to have a person from a group create the constellation of his or her family with the help of other group members. They represent members of the person's family and are positioned in the room in relation to each other according to the person's feeling at that moment. In this way a living model of the original family is created.
By creating the structure or constellation of the family with the help of other group members, the relationships and operating laws within the system become visible. Through rearranging the constellation and using simple sentences the therapist supports an inner movement of the members of the family towards a new and healing picture that is more in harmony with a natural order.
When this order is followed, all family members feel a great relief and the hidden love begins to flow again freely. Then instead of being a burden, one’s family can be experienced as a source of great strength. Usually this is done in a group of people, but it also works in individual sessions, where cushions or other symbols can be used to represent the positions of family members.
The movement ‘beyond family’ and ‘beyond blind love to conscious love’ is part of an inner growth process that brings the individual to deep synchronicity with life itself and into true and blissful aloneness. Only out of that, healthy relationships become possible.
Osho Family Constellation is based in meditation; it is rooted in deep acceptance and honouring of what is, rather than in effort for improvement. This is the point where therapy ends and meditation begins.
Love should give you freedom. Never settle for less.